Leaving a domestically abusive partner doesn’t always mean the abuse ends. For many women, it actually escalates. Up to 90% report continued abuse after separation, and tactics often shift into stalking, harassment, legal threats, financial control, and using children as weapons. Separation doesn’t stop coercive control—it can intensify it.
This book is for women living with post separation abuse: the hidden, confusing, and often minimised tactics that continue long after the relationship ends. Naming these behaviours brings clarity. Understanding them brings relief. And recognising that the abuse is not your fault can be life changing.
You’ll find practical guidance on navigating ongoing coercive control, from legal options to emotional strategies that help limit the impact of continued abuse. While some situations require urgent professional intervention, many women can reclaim a sense of stability and strength—even while the abuse continues.
Real life case studies, drawn from years of frontline experience, bring these patterns to life and help you feel less alone. This book offers understanding, validation, and a way forward.
Some reviews:
“Everything now makes sense, I’m no longer in denial. I’d recommend to any woman experiencing post separation abuse. Very validating.”
“This book has helped me to process what’s been happening to me since my separation. The author understands the subtleties of this type of abuse and reading this book has been so helpful to me because I now understand his behaviour fits into common patterns of post-separation abuse. I loved the chapters on boundaries and control. I found this information powerful and uplifting.”
“Incredible insight into the patterns of behaviour that women suffer post breakup, when you think it’s over it only just starts. This book will help women to survive, friends, family and professionals to support women through post separation abuse. It is full of clear information, case studies and helpful advice.”
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